tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9161155155638715504.post8833406855475347595..comments2023-07-03T18:35:37.155+07:00Comments on Elyani's Place: Gift of love ?Elyanihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02520287171556578033noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9161155155638715504.post-12091284574772441622008-06-08T14:01:00.000+07:002008-06-08T14:01:00.000+07:00elyani, i normally don't loan money to anyone exce...elyani, i normally don't loan money to anyone except reliable friends. i usually just give my brothers money and never never demand payment. <BR/><BR/>whoah, he's got the nerve to ask you to have the money wire transferred to his account on that same day? that to me is foul...so embarrassing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9161155155638715504.post-18373771920083426532008-06-05T11:28:00.000+07:002008-06-05T11:28:00.000+07:00Thank you all for your responses. No, I would not ...Thank you all for your responses. No, I would not lend to anyone with a bad track record because it's unlikely he's gonna pay me back. I don't know why the brother was looking after me for the handouts. Perhaps he thought my long time friendship with his sister and the fact that I am in charge for the account here in my office, will make me do stupid things like borrow money to lend to friends. I have spoken to my friend about this and she said sorry about this, but didn't want to discuss further so I just considered it never happened. Good or bad it is her brother, I don't think it is appropriate to dig further.<BR/><BR/>@Anita : thanks God I had a perfect recovery with no complications. It has been almost three weeks post-op now and am feeling great :)Elyanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02520287171556578033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9161155155638715504.post-83159398667410449772008-06-04T22:32:00.000+07:002008-06-04T22:32:00.000+07:00Only loan money you are prepared to loose, because...Only loan money you are prepared to loose, because there's always a possibility that the person fails to pay it back. It happened to me once with my best friend in high school, twice she paid me back, the third time she vanished in thin air without a trace, up to date. <BR/><BR/>Like everyone else, I think the brother is out of line. Maybe he really needed to borrow some money, (but why did he choose to go to you rather than his family?), but the way he did it was very impolite. He should've called and arranged to meet you in person (Therry suggested a phone call, but I think it's still not enough). <BR/><BR/>You did the right thing.<BR/><BR/>Your friend might feel embarrassed about the whole thing, that's why she hasn't contacted you up to now. So perhaps you should let her know how you feel.<BR/><BR/>How are you by the way? Recovering well?Finally Wokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13959697119637675461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9161155155638715504.post-2526055801769694932008-06-04T21:33:00.000+07:002008-06-04T21:33:00.000+07:00If I have then I will lend my friend the money he/...If I have then I will lend my friend the money he/she needed. But for my friend's relative, I'll do the same like you, even bluntly than you.<BR/><BR/>I'll call my friend right away and asked of the purpose of the sms.<BR/><BR/>You don't have to feel guilty, everybody has their own reason. You have done the right thing. Otherwise I can't imagine how's your friend's feeling.<BR/><BR/>BTW, happy to now that you're back again :-)Astra Astrohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15869966928397070850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9161155155638715504.post-27547833220302909252008-06-04T16:53:00.000+07:002008-06-04T16:53:00.000+07:00i dont like to give loans but i hate borrowing mor...i dont like to give loans but i hate borrowing more. if i have the money, like you, i will give. but only to those i really know and love.<BR/><BR/>in your case, i would never loan the money and i would call up the friend to tell her that her brother asked for money from me.rimafauzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14287421437245302939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9161155155638715504.post-72011284629076470172008-06-04T01:34:00.000+07:002008-06-04T01:34:00.000+07:00I wouldn't loan money to people I don't know perso...I wouldn't loan money to people I don't know personally and I think in your case, the brother was way out of line (like the other comments above) since he didn't even talk to you directly (or didn't even bother to make appointment or come to your house to request the loan). <BR/><BR/>I had the same experience with an Indonesian student here. I don't know her that well and once she sent me sms out of the blue asking if she could borrow 30,000 crowns (approx 60 million rupiah) from me, and after I told her that I didn't have the money, she asked if I could ask my boyfriend to lend some money to her. Some people just don't know manners, I guess.....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9161155155638715504.post-34757603559152417572008-06-04T00:48:00.000+07:002008-06-04T00:48:00.000+07:00if i were you, i would ignore his request. just li...if i were you, i would ignore his request. just like therry said, he should behave himself. <BR/>this afternoon I got an sms from a friend, asking to borrow some money and promised to return it in a week or two. it was not her first request. the last time she did it was late last year (if i'm not mistaken). if the amount is reasonable, i don't mind lending her some. she always returns the money in time. <BR/>a construction worker who renovated my house had borrowed some money and he later apologized for being unable to return it in time. that's ok with me. <BR/>last year a man i know came to my house to borrow some money but i turned him down. i wished i gave him some.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9161155155638715504.post-82839752688141899852008-06-03T22:01:00.000+07:002008-06-03T22:01:00.000+07:00ya ampuunn..berani banget ya dia? hmmm.... aku pri...ya ampuunn..berani banget ya dia? hmmm.... aku pribadi sich belon tentu mau pinjemin loh mba... apalage sodaranya temen.. duh boro2 deh.. lagean juga ga ada sopan2nya ya mereka..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9161155155638715504.post-86414838757181808182008-06-03T19:57:00.000+07:002008-06-03T19:57:00.000+07:00I try to avoid giving any loan to my relatives as ...I try to avoid giving any loan to my relatives as it will resulting uncomfortable relationship if they fail to pay it back. Would rather to give once in a while, but then again, some of them having difficulties to understand our stand.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9161155155638715504.post-60025959707045498662008-06-03T15:53:00.000+07:002008-06-03T15:53:00.000+07:00Oops, I meant to say "he could've used a much poli...Oops, I meant to say "he could've used a much politer method - instead of borrowing his sister's mobile and text message, he could have called directly!"Therryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10931058172511766404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9161155155638715504.post-67804072111197854022008-06-03T15:51:00.000+07:002008-06-03T15:51:00.000+07:00Your friend's brother is way out of line, I think....Your friend's brother is way out of line, I think. If he wanted to borrow money and needed it that badly, he could've used a much politer method - instead of borrowing his sister's mobile and text message, instead of calling!<BR/><BR/>I don't know why a lot of Indonesians do this when they need a favour from someone - they're the ones in need of help and yet they expect us to come rushing over to them and give them a hand!<BR/><BR/>While they're just sitting there and do nothing except wait for a response.<BR/><BR/>Manners, manners, manners!Therryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10931058172511766404noreply@blogger.com