June 13, 2008

Sex, shopping and the survey

OK, stand up all of you who love surveys! The DailyMail had an article about how some women think about shopping more than they think about sex. While this survey does not reflect the consumer culture, it probably reflects the fact that shopping takes less energy and delivers bigger rewards, and if you're not happy with your purchase you can always take your purchase back for a refund/exchange (not in Indonesia, of course). Do you agree with these survey finding? Do you think about shopping more than sex? or are you a multitasking kind who like to have sex while shopping???...LOL! Have your say ...

Shopping is better than sex, say four in ten women
By NEIL SEARS
Last updated at 11:38 20 November 2007

Four in ten women would rather go shopping than have sex, researchers say.

And half of those who have been married for 20 years or more would happily get by without any at all.

The statistics may sound like an insult to their husbands. But there is some good news for men ? 72 per cent of wives still fancy their partners, giving them seven out of ten or higher on the scale of sexual attractiveness.

Nor does the figure diminish with age. More than half of those who have been married for 20 years agree.

However, the wedding night is not quite the milestone it used to be. A third did not have sex that evening, according to the research for First magazine.

Neither is marriage the institution it was. A fifth of women between 45 and 54 had been married twice, and more than two-thirds of those had separated within the first ten years of their marriage.

In total, 37 per cent of those polled said they could be happy in a sexless marriage, with the figure ris- to half for those married for more than 20 years.

Relationship psychologist Anjula Mutanda said this was a worrying indication.

"Considering that sex is a healthy part of a loving relationship and is an important way of physically and psychologically connecting with your partner, something is clearly wrong.

"Having no sex at all creates distance and resentment. A once loving and tactile relationship becomes the equivalent of living with your brother or sister."

The survey also found that 37 per cent of women had sex once or twice a week. Just more than a third said they were unhappy with the amount of sex they had.

But, contrary to fable, only half said their sex lives had diminished after having children.

Ninety-four per cent of wives described themselves as "happily married".

10 comments:

Finally Woken said...

Just like Joey in Friends who wanted girls on bread, I want men on Gucci bag...

therry said...

@finally woken:

Instead of them on a Maserati? lol

I prefer the latter actually. I was a shopaholic for a brief period during high school but now I rarely shop unless it's stuff I need eg. toilettries etc.

I think I spend more money on books rather than shoes and clothes.

the writer said...

I have a certain orgasm whenever I have accomplished a certain shopping mission :)

there's something about something that makes you feel good afterwards, and yes, you find the same thing with sex, but hey you don't get to wear the nice dress/coats/bags/shoes after sex, do you? LOL

rimafauzi said...

I choose shopping over sex ANYTIME!
the high I get from shopping, the satisfaction, the thrill.. it beats sex. seriously. or maybe it's because im old and menopausal? I don't know...

therry said...

omg Rim you're freaking far from menopause, will you just stop it lol

Elyani said...

@Anita, Rima & the writer : this is hilarious, while men can come and go ...I suppose shoes do last longer, LOL! After all shopping is women's sex!

@Rima : oh dear, I will have to strap you with a lie detector for lying about your peri-menopause condition :)

@Therry : sex is always available when you're married, so there's no real reason not to go shopping and have sex later, or tomorrow :)

Fun said...

komen kaga ya mba? hehehehe gimana komennya wong belon merit hehehe :) jadi tetep shopping no 1... tapi kudu banyak duiittt neh :)

Lorraine said...

Men go shopping with their wives/girlfriends in order to have sex afterwards while women think of shopping during sex. Conclusion: it's damn true, first comes shopping than sex.

Elyani said...

@Lorraine : You are quite entertaining! LOL! Yeah, passion is expressed throughout many facets of our lives, not just the bedroom :)

@Fun : bukan-nya tiap bawa tourist ke Thai/Sin/M'sia belanja melulu? :) iya buat toko sih..tapi kan tetap belanja juga namanya neng! :)

Miss_Ngoceh said...

I think about what i'm going to do tomorrow during sex.

I think about what i'm going to buy next during shopping.

hmm...