Anger is often viewed as an immature response to frustration. We may express our anger in uncontrolled outbursts or emotions, and we keep piling up those bitter feelings. Perhaps you are angry at a close friend who said something hurtful. Maybe your boyfriend cheated on you. Your friend gossiped about you. Whatever it is, you feel hurt and angry, and you nurse those resentments - sometimes for months, sometimes for years. The people who most likely to hurt us are usually those closest to us — our friends, work colleagues, partners, relatives. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness and grudges.
My older brother has not spoken to my youngest brother since my nephew , A, was born almost 3 years ago. I don't know exactly what happened between the two of them but until today it looks like the older bro still has a problem with forgiving. Hearing from my youngest bro who is very close to me, I believe it is merely a misunderstanding, but men have huge egos. On the other hand, my oldest sister is very forgiving and quick to get over things. I am somewhat in between. I've sometimes held a grudge for a while but it usually passes quite quickly. I know I'm capable of being unintentionally rude or insensitive myself if I'm under stress but I never stay mad for too long anyway so I tend to let most things go.
So, are you a forgiving soul or do you hold grudges against people?